Connect with us


Mothers Seeking Careers Struggle to Maintain Identity

Career gives women a sense of being and purpose



Mariam* reminisces of her hurriedly typed assignments with merely an hour’s deadline for submission. She has recently completed a 2 year program for a Masters in Human Resource Management. Being a student enrolled in a Virtual University, she had the facility to view lectures, submit assignments and attempt quizzes online using her laptop from home. However, married life with four kids made these tasks tedious for her. Always juggling between household work, parental duties and social responsibilities, Mariam struggled on a daily basis to complete her second Masters degree. “When I got married 20 years ago, I had already completed my Masters in Mass Communications with an interest in Public Relations and Advertising,” shares Mariam. “After marriage, we moved to a city which was not very modern. I also had a fear that my in laws may not like the idea of me working anywhere. It was a typical marriage, the life of an ordinary girl turning into a house maker followed by travels, charms, luxuries and motherhood. So the personality, if it ever existed, now revolves around home and kids.”

An Identity Crisis
Like Mariam, many other married women in Pakistan and around the world, tend to feel a loss of purpose in their lives when they are unable to perform tasks other than their daily household chores. In 1963, Betty Friedan, an American psychologist was perplexed by an unusual mental condition that she found was quite widespread, mostly among married women. They complained of depression, of being unable to focus on things, of bursting into tears without reason, sleeping a lot and feeling unusually tired. This feeling of unhappiness was there despite the women having secure marriages, children, financial security and social networks. In her book titled “The Feminine Mystique”, Freidan wrote that these women did not face any hormonal or psychological issue. She realised that the source of these women’s condition was an identity crisis. A woman told her that she had everything – a husband moving up in his career, a lovely home, yet when she woke up in the morning there was nothing to look forward to. One question summed up her feelings: Is this all there is in life?

Half a century later, the situation is still the same for many women today. With better social and education standards, the impact of modernity brings with it a new brand of identity crisis in the women. “I got a bit stuck in a question I ask myself again and again, that am I of any worth?” shares Mariam. “Can I be of some use apart from daily house chores?” she says.

Amna*, who has prior work experience in banking, advertising and electronic media, also felt a vacuum in her life, until recently being hired in a local school. “Initially I felt bad for not being able to go back to work or do something I was good at,” she says. “Later I realized it was not easy with three kids. Time has changed now, the news industry has evolved so much.” she laments. Nevertheless, she still feels happy that she would be able to utilise some time of her day in a useful manner, no matter that the work would not be associated with that of her prior experience.

The Time Factor
In the Asian culture, tradition remains strong and dictates many aspects of the society. Psychologists have observed that as young girls grow into adolescence and womanhood, they comply more and more with the feminine roles demanded of them. Some studies even suggested that women are subtly conditioned to feel that over-achievement is an “unfeminine” trait. Those who do become part of the workforce, face difficulties in moving up the corporate ladder, especially if they are married.

Surprisingly, women may face a similar situation even in the West, where despite a more liberal approach being practiced towards life, they may still be expected to eventually contribute to raising a family. In 2017,New Zealand’s current prime minister Jacinda Ardern was drawn into a sexism row when she was the opposition leader. She was asked if having a baby would affect her chances of becoming a prime minister. “It is totally unacceptable in 2017 to say that women should have to answer that question in the workplace,” Arden had then responded, saying it was a dilemma lots of working women faced. Jacinda went on to become the prime minister of her nation and became the second woman to give birth to a child while holding that office.

According to the Denver Women’s Commission, most women who work outside their homes are still the primary caregivers for their young children as well as elderly relatives. For some, the option of hiring a nanny or a close relative taking care of offsprings is available, for others it is either not there or not preferred, hence the burden falling on the woman. Consequently, many women can only pursue their careers on a part-time basis, resulting in fewer promotion opportunities. They consider the ages of their children and the amount of time they have available before they decide to pursue a career path. “I wanted to join the corporate world so badly but a 9-5 job was not a workable option for me,“ says Uzma*, an MBA degree holder with a major in Marketing and now a mother of two. “I didn’t want to waste my studies, so I opted to join a school which was an 8-2 job.”

Not Losing Hope
Taking out lesser time from their household routine still does not deter women from pursuing a career. Although many of them would still not be satisfied until they can fully participate in a working field and are eager to reach a top position, most feel that as long as there is an outlet for them to experience creativity, management skills and independence, working for fewer hours is actually not that bad. “Apart from teaching, I also started a small scale home based baking business and later on, started an event management business along with two friends,” says Uzma. “I was able to give time to my family as well and was a working woman side by side. It was easy to balance both sides due to less working hours.” she explains.

Amna always pursued a career option. “I’m very busy with my 3 kids and honestly I’m loving it,” she responds. “But sometimes you want to do something extra with your life. As I see my kids growing, they need my time and attention more then ever, but it is not very difficult to start working again. A lot of my friends are working moms and they are doing a great job. Nothing is difficult if you know the art of time management,” expresses Amna. She now looks forward to her new job starting late in summer.

What Friedan argued in the 60s is that women be allowed and facilitated to pursue activities that enhance their identity. For many women, a career is what gives them a sense of being and purpose. With this in mind, Mariam hopes that since she has

completed her studies, she may one day be able to join a higher educational institution as a lecturer. “Some still laugh at me and I also question myself what’s the use after all these years,” she admits. “ But then I say that just for the sake of myself, I have to do something.”

*Names of case studies have been changed to protect identities.

The writer is a broadcast journalist and freelance writer. She has keen interest in issues concerning women, religion and foreign affairs.

Continue Reading


Baldness: A man’s dilemma

Embracing the look is not going out of style



Male pattern baldness, or androgenic alopecia is the most common type of hair loss in men. The disturbing part is that most men who are affected by the condition, first see the signs of hair loss before the age of 21, that is, at a very young age.

Fawad Saleem, 29, a Karachi based marketing manager in an international company, is one of the many young men ready for a hair transplant after the stages of frustration and shattering self-esteem he went through when he started going bald.

“It’s always a very sudden realisation that you are actually losing your hair. You even laugh off a little hair loss at first. But you never see the baldness coming. Suddenly, all your hair starts falling out. You wake up and find it on your pillow, and then you see it everywhere. You find yourself looking at older pictures when you had hair and then then you realise that the game has started.”

Bilal Javed, a university student aged 25 finds sharing pictures worrisome in the age of selfies. “I didn’t feel very bothered at first but when it (the hair fall) started happening dramatically I felt very uncomfortable and had huge self-esteem issues when sharing my pictures especially.”

He feels that the younger lot feel more affected because older people don’t have to face the dilemmas of today’s age, they’ve passed the stage of life when appearances matter so much. “It is definitely more stressful for people of my age,” he adds.

Why does the hair fall?
Dr Asad Toor, a hair transplant surgeon explains the occurrence of male pattern baldness due to the presence of a male hormone called DHT (dihydrotestosterone), also known as the ‘enemy of the hair follicle.’ Simply put, the hair that has the receptor for this hormone will fall. Usually these hairs are on the top of the head, hence people tend to get bald from the frontal region while hair remains on the back and sides of the head. Genetics determine the presence and distribution of the susceptible hair. Hence, people who have more susceptibility are extensively bald.

Treating baldness
Medication is one option for sufferers that doctors recommend. The success rate is quite high, but it comes with serious side effects for men. As the medicine works by blocking the male hormone DHT; it disrupts other male functions also, resulting in impotence, loss of libido and abnormal ejaculation. Even if an individual doesn’t experience the side effects, the measure is still temporary.

The shampoos and products that fill the market claiming to provide a fix to hair fall don’t work, yet people try them anyway in a desperate attempt to find the quick solution.

“I tried every type of shampoo that claims to fix hair fall. I’ve even used shampoos costing more than 2000 rupees with bio-tech technology and what not, but it’s all a hoax,” says Saleem.

Hair transplant: The real solution?
Ultimately, hair transplant is the permanent solution.

“Many people eventually opt for transplant. They don’t want to keep taking the medicine for the rest of their lives. Once you stop taking the medicine, your hair starts falling again,” adds Toor.

Although hair transplants are often associated with older men, younger men are also increasingly getting the treatment done. Dr Toor estimates that 30-35 percent of his transplant patients is aged under 30, 15 percent would be the older age group which is above 55 plus, and the remaining 50 percent patients are aged from 30 to 55.

The simple motivation for these men is to boost self-confidence. According to Dr Toor, lots of people who have jobs in marketing, in banks, and wherever public dealing is involved, feel an increased need to get it.

“(Also) Social media, and increased awareness among people has made it a real issue for youngsters especially”, explains Dr. Toor. “(Boys belonging to) new generation take their own pictures, post them online, and in general are more conscious about these things. So, the percentage of younger patients is progressively increasing.”

There used to be a time when only the affluent would ask for a hair transplant. “Now you can imagine that I get shopkeepers to chief executives of companies coming for transplant. It’s across the economic and social strata, all sorts of people are getting treatment,” says Toor.

However, hair transplant also has its own problems. It is especially not recommended for younger men in their early 20s because the pattern of baldness only forms at a certain age.

“But people are in a hurry to get it done which ends up as a bad or ‘fake’ looking transplant. This happens usually by 35 years of age,” says Dr Toor.

An Associate Consultant, Bilal Tariq at 27, is about to have his second transplant. He had his first transplant at the mere age of 22 when he gave up on the sprays and medicines he was using to fight his hair loss. He feels that being socially active, going to university and meeting peers at that time was the most difficult part because of how baldness is perceived as unattractive.

“Even though I couldn’t easily afford it at the time, I made sure to somehow get the hair transplant because getting bald totally disrupted my social life and image”, shares Tariq.

Tariq feels that the transplant has become more of a dependency now. Five years later, he is losing a little hair again and is completely ready for his second transplant.

Other options
Whilst transplants are becoming common and acceptable, there are many men who choose not to take that path.

Stylists have shown that hairstyles can actually help to create trendy looks while covering bald spots. The right style and cut can make the stages of hair loss much easier to handle, since the styles can make the transition more graceful, or even fashionable, if one wants to make a statement.

Experts suggest that the key is to choose a hairstyle which makes the receding hairline less prominent. Haircuts that can help to attain this appearance include the ‘comb-over’ hairstyle, a ‘short pomp’ or a ‘textured crop with a forward fringe’. The slicked back look became very popular in the late 20th century and is still very trendy. Other options include ‘spikes’ which adds height and dimension, reducing the appearance of thinning hair. Crew cuts also help similarly.

Embracing baldness
And yet, for most men today, embracing their baldness with confidence is the answer. This may take time getting used to initially, but in the long-term the decision has helped boost confidence and contentment in the men who chose to do so.

“When I started suffering from hair loss, I shaved off all the hair and just embraced it rather than worrying further. I feel right about it now.” shares Omer Ahmed, 35.

A study in 2012, at the University of Pennsylvania revealed a very interesting insight that changed the follicle game. Researchers asked 59 males and female participants to rate photos of men- some bald, others not- based on perceived confidence. In another study, 367 males and females were shown photos where researchers had digitally removed the hair and then participants were asked to rate them. The studies found that men with shaved heads were perceived as stronger, more confident and dominant and even more attractive.

Men suffering from male pattern baldness may find that instead of spending huge amounts of money trying to cure or reverse hair loss, which mostly isn’t even permanent – the counter-intuitive approach of shaving off the hair may be the better solution.

What does this mean for balding men? The solutions do not start and end at shampoos, creams, or transplant. Embracing the look is not going out of style. So before going under the knife for a long treatment process – grab the razor and give the shaven look a try.

Continue Reading


Has Technology Disrupted the Essence of Journalism?

Traditional journalism is set to fade in the digital era



There was a time when there would be a 24-hour period of gap before the next newspaper would get published from any established news source. But the digital form of news story-telling today has suddenly changed the dynamics of everything – a transition many of us did not see coming.

Digital or Online Journalism, is a contemporary form of journalism where editorial content is distributed via the Internet, as opposed to publishing via print or broadcast. Digital news has inevitably stepped in with the surge in smartphone users and content consumption through portable screens like laptops, tablets, phones.

This online, social-media driven era of journalism has enormous benefits. With superior access to information, technology has revolutionised the way journalists gather data. A simple Google search can result in a plethora of rich text, information, and sources on the topic of interest.

Another value addition to journalism is how digital technology has allowed for creative and powerful visual content to complement stories. Graphics, animations, and top notch visuals are being easily created now.

Then there is the opportunity to discuss, engage, and debate with the audience too. Traditional journalism was a one-way communication channel. But now the channel is two-way which allows for immediate feedback. Anyone from the public can now give his or her opinion on the same platforms as the news sources. The digital age has contributed immensely to the emergence and development of ‘citizen’ journalism. This concept helps the public play an active role in the news dissemination process and includes online sharing of news-worthy content, spreading opinions, and using social media to gather and pass on news.

However, the challenges are also great in the digital arena, and in some ways are a threat to the traditional newsroom, and the dynamics of the profession of journalism.

Technology has made journalism so fast-paced that the newsroom now does not take the standard 24 hours to publish next morning’s paper. News is given out like wildfire; updated every minute. It can be posted anytime, anywhere and in most instances, is reported as soon as the word goes out. This generally results in verification and authenticity taking a back seat. The competition to get the word out there ‘faster than the others’ has changed the pace of storytelling and the impact of this fast pace is seen on the content which means it becomes more hurried and urgent. This also results in fake news – a globally reported consequence of the digital age of journalism.

According to a 2018 research by the Pew Research Centre, over two-thirds of US adults use some form of social media for their news consumption, “even if they don’t believe it.” About 43 percent use Facebook, 21 percent YouTube, 12 percent Twitter, 8 percent Instagram, 6 percent LinkedIn, 5 percent Reddit, 5 percent Snapchat, 2 percent WhatsApp and 1 percent Tumblr. The same survey also revealed that 57 percent of the people using social media for news expect it to be inaccurate but despite this mistrust, still continue to use the platforms.

Many media ventures are popping up, and getting successful because of their creative, snappy content that steals the limelight with click-bait headlines. These digital news organisations run ahead in time to give out the same news, with less effort, absence of reporters, and no accountability. Algorithm driven and social-media based news consumption has made truth less crucial.

Traditional journalism was more about intricately woven pieces of stories – taking time to gather information, to talk to as many sources possible, verifying information for credibility before a final piece was published. However, the news reporter does not go out to gather information anymore. The reporter has become a multi-faceted worker for a news organisation who gathers the story, captures audio, images, and videos. And with the help of modern easy to use tools; smartphones, go-pros, 360 degree feature and endless possibilities, the result is quick and fascinating.

With so much competition in todays’ digitally revolutionised age, advertising revenue has become harder to obtain. Without advertising, the journalism business model begins to fail. The industry has seen as a decline globally because of the difficulty in funding it. The Guardian, a British daily newspaper at one time lost 100 journalistic employees. A similar pattern is beginning to follow in Pakistan as the problem is the same for the whole industry.

One solution to this is a paywall – and organisations are beginning to use it to generate their revenue. Paid subscriptions to view news online are getting common. However even this goes against the essence of news, which is a ‘public-interest’ commodity. Charging people for content also means that the content must now be shaped ‘for’ the consumers. The true essence of journalism is to provide news stories that are authentic, objective, and unbiased completely. Now the challenge would be to provide such stories whilst making consumers feel that the content is worth their cash.

News organisations are now looking at the trending topics, and trying to give the audience what they want. The challenge here is for the editor to strike a balance and also provide news that have journalistic value and public importance too. Publications are shifting to less text-based and more engaging content using animations, videos, and pictures. The newsrooms are realising what is needed to keep the audiences’ attention intact and so they are designing content accordingly. Brand integration is another popular tool being used for advertising and has a lot of potential for revenue, even for news organisations.

Traditional journalism is set to fade as the digital era is taking over and more people are now consuming news through their screens, rather than papers or television. However, with the right ethics and professional values, quality control and good content creation, the essence of journalism can be kept intact in this shift towards a digital revolution.

Continue Reading


The delights of reading!

Reading in print VS e-reading



When nestled in a couch near a window, with a favourite book in one hand and an expresso in the other, there is a heavenly feeling that all book lovers can connect themselves with. And there is a likelihood that this moment is amongst their best minutes ever. But does it feel the same with words blinking on a screen?

With the coming of the advanced world, the notion of reading has greatly changed. There have been various discussions with respect to print reading and digital reading, and it has not been distinguished as yet since both have plenty of reasons to motivate their roles.

The traditional reading, that is, reading from the print, takes the crown for readers of the old school of thought, for a number of reasons. The first relates to the physical feature. Holding a book, turning the crispy pages, inhaling the smell of the book and actually seeing the reading progress with pages remaining less to the right-side are all possible with a printed book only. And for some this smell is no less than an intoxication, as American author Ray Bradbury has appropriately expressed in one of his axioms:

“A computer does not smell … if a book is new, it smells great. If a book is old, it smells even better… And it stays with you forever. But the computer doesn’t do that for you. I’m sorry.”

Secondly, reading isn’t merely a recreation moment if you ask a book freak. It’s an addiction, that involves cautiously crafted steps. The giddy feeling of stepping into a bookshop, sensing the musty scent of paper, running hands over the beautifully decorated bookshelves, glancing at the titles and carrying books back into your room to add to your collection, is a happiness that a bookworm looks forward to constantly. E-reading, on the other hand, would leave one deprived of this ecstasy.

‘Books are a great companion’, isn’t just a phrase. One is never alone if he or she has a book in hand. One can turn a page and immerse oneself into a tirade of emotions, adventures and perspectives. That’s how books have the power to keep the reader hostage for hours. Reading digital, on the other hand, is an alienated experience. Tell me if a screen can be hugged tightly after a good read with the feeling as intense as that of a paper book.

The list doesn’t end here, printed books have been considered to be friendly on eyes and give a genuine feeling of serenity. Digital reading only adds strains to the already drained mind with burning eyes. It has also been proved that looking at a gleaming screen before bed takes away sleep. If one reads for the sake of relaxation, digital reading surely doesn’t serve that purpose.

There is yet another custom in the worlds of bookworms. There is no doubt that books make the perfect present, and easily affordable to be more specific. So the next time readers are hit with an unplanned invitation, they don’t doubt to snag one good book from the nearest store. You can’t say this about e-book, however.

A more fascinating reason to champion paper books is the retention capability that scores high with printed books. As reported by The Guardian, a study by lead researcher Anne Mangen of Norway’s Stavanger University found that stories read on e-readers were not remembered as well as when they were read on a more traditional medium. In the same way, print reading is a more in-depth experience. Ziming Liu of San Jose State University conducted a study in the year 2005 where he found out that when people read using screens they spent more time scanning and jumping around to look for keywords and get as much information as they could in the least amount of time. This provided the evidence which proved that reading on screens was a less immersive experience as compared to reading print.

On the contrary, there are many reasons that have made digital reading a reality today. The most agreed reason would be that of accessibility. One can open up an e-book anywhere at any time, be it delay of a flight or waiting for friends in a restaurant. Unlike paper book, it doesn’t have to be carried along. Likewise, it spares readers from deciding which book to take on a trip. One can take a library long with no weight at all. Similarly, there comes a time when your favourite book isn’t available in stores. E-book can save you from that agony as you can download one in literally seconds. This point holds water for a country like Pakistan where about 97 percent of the population doesn’t have access to library.

In addition, digital reading is cost effective. Paper books are pricey, given the cost of publishing and distribution. E-books are affordable in comparison and can be obtained free of cost from various online platforms.

We cannot also ignore the fact that digital reading is eco-accommodating. Reading online saves the environment of the cost of papers that are overwhelmingly used to print books. According to statistics, global consumption of paper has grown 400 percent in the last 40 years. Now nearly 4 billion trees or 35 percent of the total trees cut around the world are used in paper industries on every continent. That equates to about 2.47 million trees cut down every day. With global warming soaring and our planet at the brink of destruction, digital reading provides an applauding option.

Undeniably, reading now has become more interesting and with different platforms like Good Reads, readers can connect to a network, where they can discuss their favourite books and authors. There are apps that can help one keep track of the number of books one reads. These consequently add some flavour to the reading experience.

During a time when technology is inescapable, adhering purely to print would be naive. A balance between both could be the right option. Nonetheless, both hardcore and digital books have noticeable dominance in the realm of reading. What matters most is a reader’s preference. Whether you like the convenience that comes with digital reading or are obsessed with printed book, never give up the habit of reading because it’s one of the few things that make this world beautiful.

Continue Reading